Would Your Life Be Better If You Were Thin?

Would Your Life Be Better If You Were Thin?

At some point in your life you began to question how you view your body and how it impacts your relationships with yourself and with the world. A negative experience of your body can become a torturous preoccupation. Eventually, your attempt to ward off feelings of...
How to Release Self-Beliefs That Create Great Shame

How to Release Self-Beliefs That Create Great Shame

There may be secrets you keep—not literal or intentional secrets, but negative feelings and beliefs about yourself that have grown bigger and uglier over time. Along with these secrets comes great shame. What shameful beliefs do you hold about yourself? Where did they...
How Great Parents Create Kids’ Relationship Challenges

How Great Parents Create Kids’ Relationship Challenges

How were you parented? If you say “well,” to me that means your parents provided affirmation, recognition, validation and support. There was relative safety and predictability in your home life. But now the difference between your parents’ unconditional love and...
Investing in Feeling Bad Keeps You From Feeling Good

Investing in Feeling Bad Keeps You From Feeling Good

Are you interested in someone? Is he or she interested in you? Maybe—but it’s a lot easier to assume not, because if you lower your expectations, there’s much less far to fall. This tendency to manage expectations and keep them low is meant to be protective. The...
Rebuilding Self-Esteem After a Cycle of Rejection

Rebuilding Self-Esteem After a Cycle of Rejection

When we were young, we created many of the patterns that control our adult lives. This can be especially true of relationships – what did you learn to expect in your earliest relationships? Do you expect emotional reciprocity and respect? Or do you expect to be...