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Psychologist, Author & Relationship Expert

Suzanne Lachmann, Psy.D., is a New York State licensed clinical psychologist with offices in Manhattan and Westchester, NY. She earned her Doctorate from the Ferkauf Graduate School of Psychology at Yeshiva University. Her work has been featured in USA Today, Time, Cosmo, Women’s Health, Men’s Health and elsewhere. Dr. Lachmann writes here and at Substack. Find her archive of relationship advice at PsychologyToday.com.

Latest Articles 

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Texting in a New Relationship

Interpreting texts through the lens of your own emotions and experience can sabotage a developing connection

Measuring Male-to-Female Sexual Harassment in the Workplace

A rough overview of five categories of sexual harassment in the workplace, from worst-case scenarios to the most innocuous.

What Stopped Us? Why Didn’t We Report?

What we all can do to make things better now, is tell as many girls and women out there who have no advocate or are too intimidated or ashamed to ask for one that they have advocates now.

How Hope Can Sabotage a Relationship

By being aware of the ways your hopeful feelings are experienced, you are less likely to sabotage a relationship with potential.

How to Deal With Your Partner’s Ex

Encouraging positive communication between your partner and their ex brings peace to your new home and creates a system that has significantly less hostility than would otherwise be the case.

The Waiting is the Hardest Part

Accepting reality that you are in pain and that you must tolerate the unknown in order to feel better is what helps you get through.

When Trauma Affects Your Trust in Your Relationship

Trauma can affect trust and connection in relationships and leave you seeking safety and comfort. Learn how to realistically ask for healthy support from your partner.

The Gut-Wrenching Aftermath of Breakup


Your reactions, regardless of when you have them, are part of your process.

After Breakup, Understanding Your Identity as an Un-Partnered Person

After breakup, who do you understand yourself to be? A relationship can be an anchor that helps define who you are, to others and also to yourself.

A Letter to Your People: 5 Ways to Help Me Through Breakup

Breakup can be challenging not only for you, but for the people who care about and support you. Here are five key guidelines for the person, people or group you may turn to for support you as you go through withdrawal from your ex.