Why Feeling Deserving Helps You Achieve Good Things

Why Feeling Deserving Helps You Achieve Good Things

You join a gym but can’t stop smoking. You finally pull free from a destructive relationship but are binging on junk food. You stop wasting time on mindless TV, but then compulsively check Facebook. Does it seem like pushing forward in one area of your life must be...
Investing in Feeling Bad Keeps You From Feeling Good

Investing in Feeling Bad Keeps You From Feeling Good

Are you interested in someone? Is he or she interested in you? Maybe—but it’s a lot easier to assume not, because if you lower your expectations, there’s much less far to fall. This tendency to manage expectations and keep them low is meant to be protective. The...
Rebuilding Self-Esteem After a Cycle of Rejection

Rebuilding Self-Esteem After a Cycle of Rejection

When we were young, we created many of the patterns that control our adult lives. This can be especially true of relationships – what did you learn to expect in your earliest relationships? Do you expect emotional reciprocity and respect? Or do you expect to be...