After a period of devastation, loss, despair–a traumatic experience–as time passes, you may begin to feel better, safer in your own skin. You may even sense that you have grown stronger as the distance between where you are now and the painful experiences you have...
When you reflect on your history and how it has impacted you, you may appreciate the building blocks that contribute to your resilience. You may see the opportunities to engage in the fortunate and challenging experiences that helped to shape you in a way that helps...
In the movie “American Beauty” we are compelled to look closer. As the movie progresses, we learn that what appears on the outside to be a normal, happy, well functioning family is crumbling on the inside. What is so remarkable about this movie is how exquisitely it...
Last week I wrote about the ways that low self-esteem manifests in women’s relationships. This week I will do a very brief overview of the infinite places from which low self-esteem can originate – how your history and primary caregiver relationships shaped...
Nothing interferes with the ability to have an authentic, reciprocal relationship like low self-esteem. If you can’t believe you’re good enough, how can you believe a loving partner could choose you? Low self-esteem can make you test or sabotage relationships that...
Hillary knows…How did you first learn the story of Rosa Parks, whose birthday was yesterday? Too often, we hear about her refusal to give up her seat on an Alabama bus as a single, inevitable act. It was not. Parks spent years studying the principles of non-violent resistance, informing her political beliefs, and helping to grow a community of activists. Her bus protest was not just an act of courage, but of clear-eyed conviction. It also led to Parks's tireless organizing to keep the Montgomery bus boycott going, and a lifetime of taking action around causes she cared about, often with no recognition and at enormous personal risk. She understood better than anyone that progress takes decades of hard work, persistence, and the courage to keep going. #gutsywomenPhoto: Montgomery Sheriff's Office ... See MoreSee Less
This win means so much more than moneyThis is a win for christine Blasey FordThis is a win for Anita HillThis is a win for every woman assaulted no matter how long ago, who due to the time in HIStory, had to try to make sense of it some other way. Total confusion for survivor. “Is this my fault?”“The repercussions would be too great.”“Authorities would not care.”“What just happened to me?”“I need to downplay this or block it out so I can live my life.”“No one would believe me and the public would hate me if I dare”“I was not just assaulted. That’s not what happened. I can’t take on that heat, so maybe I try to convince myself I enjoyed it? But didn’t. It hurt.”“i was in disbelief.”“I felt shame; humiliation.”“I’ll tell some trusted friends to help me process what happened to me.”Like the millions of women in America who endure this treatment daily,I will try to block it out.” ... See MoreSee Less
E. Jean Carroll's first defamation case against Trump was brutal for the Republican. The newly resolved second case, however, was vastly worse for him.
I haven’t been around for awhile. With all that’s happening in the world I’ve been focused on helping people one-on-one. I hope to make it back here on a more consistent basis, spurred on by having made a list of the best psychologists “in the world.” ... See MoreSee Less