Does Your Identity Feel Threatened in Your Relationship?

Does Your Identity Feel Threatened in Your Relationship?

Deepening relationships require compromise and even sacrifice. But there can be a downside. As real-life challenges arise, it can seem as if your identity and individuality are being threatened — like you’re losing a part of yourself. As a result, you become...
10 Sources of Low Self-Esteem

10 Sources of Low Self-Esteem

Last week I wrote about the ways that low self-esteem manifests in women’s relationships. This week I will do a very brief overview of the infinite places from which low self-esteem can originate  – how your history and primary caregiver relationships shaped...
Online Dating: Have You Seen These 11 Types of Men?

Online Dating: Have You Seen These 11 Types of Men?

For this article I used the descriptions of women who have shared their online dating experiences with me to describe 11 types of (heterosexual) men who are drawn to Internet dating. I realize, as do you, that there are infinite varieties of men who engage in online...
How (and Why!) to Love Your False Self

How (and Why!) to Love Your False Self

With groups, at work, with your partner, with your family, and alone you might feel like you are different people. At times you may even feel like a fraud. Somehow you think you’re supposed to know more, be different, have some sort of tangible or social skill set...
Why Feeling Deserving Helps You Achieve Good Things

Why Feeling Deserving Helps You Achieve Good Things

You join a gym but can’t stop smoking. You finally pull free from a destructive relationship but are binging on junk food. You stop wasting time on mindless TV, but then compulsively check Facebook. Does it seem like pushing forward in one area of your life must be...