Revisiting trauma in the wake of a tumultuous relationship

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Deb Stgo/Flickr

When you’ve had a stormy relationship that’s ended, one of the most tormenting aspects of its aftermath is that you can think you’re ok, you ‘re feeling stable, but then you plunge right back into confusion, disgust, and fear all over again. Chances are the more tumultuous the relationship was, the more tumultuous your response to breakup will be. Why? Because when you’re in a tumultuous relationship, your brain is in a perpetually heightened state of intensity. This could mean that when the breakup first occurred, you might have gone through periods of relief and calmness. However, now you begin to realize just how traumatized you were and still are. The trigger for that realization could be something you are aware of, or something you’re not. Your discomfort might have started right away, immediately post-breakup, or a year from now. No matter when, it won’t be denied.

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