Single? How To Feel Okay On New Year’s Eve

You survived Christmas as a single person, but now it’s time to face New Year’s Eve. Along with Valentines Day, it’s one of the hardest days of the year to be single: it can feel as if everyone has someone to kiss at midnight except you. It doesn’t help that friends and family are constantly asking, “How is it possible you’re still single!” They mean: you’re such a catch! But what you hear is:  How do you keep failing over and over again? And if you really had an answer, then you wouldn’t be single.Starting as early as Thanksgiving and ending after Valentine’s Day, everything takes on even more heightened and disproportionate meaning – your expectations, your feelings, your hope and your disappointment are all repeatedly re-experienced. As hard as it might be to recognize this right now, this period of time does not indicate how the rest of your life is going to go.

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Would Your Life Be Better If You Were Thin?

At some point in your life you began to question how you view your body and how it impacts your relationships with yourself and with the world. A negative experience of your body can become a torturous preoccupation. Eventually, your attempt to ward off feelings of self-disgust creates a rigid belief system in which you’re only allowed to be thin and you insist that anything else would leave everyone including you disgusted with you.

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